We are Fighting (and Losing) this Crucial Battle Everyday…
Have you ever been frustrated with yourself because you know you have to be doing the things important to you but instead you’re not?
You know very well that certain actions are vital to your success but somehow you find excuses as to why you shouldn’t be getting up and getting things done. And you hate yourself for it. But you continue doing unhealthy and unproductive actions (or inactions). It’s a vicious cycle. That my friends is one of the most common forms of self-sabotage — Resistance.
In his book Resisting Happiness, author Matthew Kelly tells us about why we sabotage ourselves, feel overwhelmed, set aside our dreams, & lack the courage to simply be ourselves.. & how we can start choosing happiness again. I really found the first chapter quite mind-blowing.
He narrates, “The alarm clock goes off. It’s time to get out of bed. This is your first decision of the day. Will you get out of bed or hit the snooze button? You press the snooze button and roll over. What just happened? No big deal, right? Wrong. You just lost the first battle of the day. Resistance just kicked your butt. Resistance has broken your will before you’ve even gotten out of bed. You will most likely be its slave for the rest of the day.”
If that’s really the case, then I am guilty of this almost every day. I bet we are all battling resistance at some point. We tend to choose what’s easy at the moment, what gives instant gratification. It’s easy to channel our inner Sia and sing, “IIIIIIIIII’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn’t exist.” But tomorrow does exist and soon enough, a series of tomorrows slowly becomes your future.
Do you know why Resistance is very powerful? Because sometimes it’s subtle. We don’t notice it because it hides under the disguise of personal habits.
Remember, “The most dangerous battles are those we didn’t know we are fighting.”
Resistance will always be present. Though possible, you don’t always wake-up feeling the need to be productive. If you sit around and “wait” for motivation, it most likely won’t come. You have to take action FIRST; then the motivation will come.
Best-selling author Seth Godin said, “Just imagine how much you’d get done if you stopped sabotaging your own work.”
Just imagine how you can sleep better at night knowing you made healthier life choices. Fighting Resistance won’t be a quick and instant task. You need to build healthy habits that are serving you and you need to fully understand the importance of your goals to you. But the first step is always awareness and willingness to change…
Are you aware of any “resistance” that happens to you every day? If yes, are you willing to change it?