The First of the Last

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Today is the first day of the last month of the year. It signals a beginning and an ending at the same time. It's a brand new month, but somehow we see it as a conclusion, a ticking clock. We're nearing the end of another year, of another season in our lives. I like to think of this time as having one foot in front of the other. A step back to reflect on what has been, and a step forward to plan on what will be.


Step back

  • A reflection on all things we learned, all experiences we shared, even all the tears we've shed.

  • A farewell for everything we've lost, let go of, or left behind.

  • A celebration of how far we've come and with it, gratitude.


Step forward

  • A visualization of all things we want to happen, manifest, and create.

  • A welcome for everything that is to come, may it be planned or unexpected.

  • An acceptance of new ways and directions and with it, an open heart.

Yet sometimes, we get too critical of ourselves that it's beginning to hold us back. And It's hard to start anew when something is holding you back. We will soon be having a new beginning, in the form of a new year, and for that we are lucky and blessed. But if somehow, what you saw looking back has disappointed you in any way, this is my message to you:


It's Okay…

  • It's okay if you failed, what you've learned is far more valuable.

  • It's okay if you fell short of expectations, you are not defined by other people's perceptions.

  • It's okay if you got hurt, it means your humanity is very much intact.

  • It's okay if you made mistakes, it means you are growing.

  • It's okay if your fears got the better of you, you'll know how much harder to push next time.

  • It's okay if you are not yet where you want to be, a year ago, you didn't know you'd be where you are now.

This is only the beginning, each day is still a new chance. You still have time and it's up to you to make the most out of it. As long as you're still breathing, and as long as you still have a fire of passion inside you, you're on the right path. A path unique to you and you alone.

So relax, take a deep breath, say thanks. You are here and that's all that matters.